Raising a human is the most difficult thing. Young humans have just arrived here, they are getting so easily excited and disappointed at the same time. Sometimes they think everyone is a friend of theirs and they can trust anybody, while most of the times they feel lost and alone on this planet, moving around in pointless circles around the sun.
The truth is that the only thing that they care about is to make their parents feel proud of them and get their attention. That is why they shout. They shout for acceptance and love.
What today parents need to understand though is that they are unique in human history! Yes, you are not only gorgeous and brave, but you are also a unique parent too. You are the generation of parents that raise the first generation of humans who are experiencing with true knowledge to technology systems. You are the ones that raise humans with free access to knowledge about history, astronomy, and all the crazy stuff.
No human never had this ability. To have access to instant knowledge, interaction with fellow humans from all around the beautiful globe, speak more than two different languages and reach their full potential and dreams, no matter where they are born. This is magnificent from the one side, overwhelming from the other. Because no matter how easily this generation has the ability to adapt to changes, they are humans. And this potential of deep knowledge can literally make them feel that they are not good enough.
Today, there are no excuses you know, like some of us was raised in a small village we couldn’t go to the university, we didn’t have money for books, we were raised in a poor family. Today basic knowledge is free and distance is not an issue anymore.
What can you do to support your child, who is a member of generation alpha, the first generation with the potential to travel among the stars? What can you do help your child not feel lost and fall behind in future changes? Most of all, what can you do for your child to be happy to be themselves and celebrate their lives as much as possible?
Don’t pass your personal fears to your child. Fears are personal issues and I think they are the only issues that must not be shared. Your child does not have to know if you are afraid of heights or spiders. Your child does not have to know if you are afraid of risk or change. Let them have their own fears and why not, not have any fears at all!
Fears are illusions and some of them are just the fears of others that where passed on us. Your child should not care if a spider walked on you when you were 6 and you are afraid of it since then. Maybe this will help you grow wiser too.
Embrace their change. And now this is the most important part. Embracing change in ourselves and the children. Chance and transformation is a universal law. The universe itself changes, it expands, it moves, it thrives.
Please be the person your child will turn to talk to when others make them feel they are different and they are weird. And this will not happen just by telling them “I want you to be free, I want you to be different”. This will come by being free and different by yourself. By hanging out with different people, by accepting we are all loving humans.
Kids are essential people, you know. They never listen to words, they are only watching behaviors. Sometimes they want it, some others not. But they are repeating behaviors, they hardly ever listen. Not because they don’t want to. But because they cannot pretend.
Our behavior is their comfort zone. We have the power to create someone else’s comfort zone. Let it be knowledge, awareness, love, and excitement.
We need happy humans and all of them, we want them to love themselves.