Want to Refuse Breadcrumbing Gift? These 5 Tips is all you need

In the last on breadcrumbing, we focused on the different signs that could help you know what exactly it is and if it is something that’s happening in your immediate environment. Breadcrumbing in or as a form of dating has become common enough that it is not really hard to find someone who knows exactly what you’re going through.

I am glad you are intentionally reading this post and I want to remind you that you deserve better than to be someone’s standby.

Counter their vagueness with clarity: They sometimes would behave as if they are clueless when you are talking to them or answer you vaguely. I advise that you respond to the vague and sporadic messages with clear interpretations and meanings. If it is unclear to you, ask that it be explained. If they stand you up or tell you they can’t make it, you can ask them why or suggest another time. You have a right to expect them to treat you the way they want to be treated.
Call them out for being flaky or noncommittal: When the breadcrumber flakes out on you, don’t be quick to make excuses for them as they are. Give them the chance to come up with their own explanations, but don’t feel obligated to accept them. If they’re not willing to show you that much courtesy, they’re not ready to be in a committed relationship.
Know your expectations and communicate them: Start by telling yourself what you expect from a committed relationship then, let them know what you expect, and ask them if they’re prepared to meet those expectations. If they respond evasively or try to deflect the blame onto you, take that as a tell-tale sign of self-centeredness and immaturity. Please don’t give them the opportunity to gaslight you or make you feel unworthy of more than they’re willing to give you.
Respect your own schedule and personal needs: Don’t let anyone manipulate you into endangering your own health or employment just to make yourself more available to them. Only toxic people do that. Anyone who claims to love you or wants a relationship with you should be considerate enough not to call or text you at odd hours and expect a response. If they have a problem with that, they’re free to look elsewhere for companionship.
You don’t have to put up with breadcrumbing: Some people date just to be seen with an attractive partner meanwhile, they’ll keep their eyes open for better prospects. Anyone who does not treat you right can go because you deserve to be treated right.

May your courage and self-respect influence everything you do as you arm yourself for the next encounter with the breadcrumber in your life.