A long-distance relationship (LDR) (or long-distance romantic relationship (LDRR) is an intimate relationship between partners who are geographically separated from one another. In other words, they live far away from each other. Research carried out in 2018 states that LDRs have a 58% success rate. If you’re in a long-distance relationship, you probably use this old adage to console yourself “distance makes the heart grow fonder” . Yes, being reunited with your partner after a month of glitchy WhatsApp or Facebook video calls and IM is great. But departing again after a few days together feels like crap and all the distance-created fondness can’t erase how bad the crap will smell when it is time to say good-bye again and again.
But there are ways to make LDR work better and suck a little lesser
- Don’t expect a perfect partner when you re-unite. Just because you are in a LDR does not mean you will not have the same troubles as regular relationships. Do not put that pressure on yourself or your partner.
- Don’t be too needy. Even though it will seem like a good idea to be clingy and needy, reduce it a notch. Take the first day of re-union to enjoy each others company but after that, try to do things outside of the house. Like seeing a movie or going grocery shopping.
- Stick to a schedule. If you are not a person who sticks to a schedule,that will have to change. It is important to note the next time you are going to see physically. It’s also important to set aside time for phone calls or video calls as often as you agree is necessary—every day, once a week, every three hours, whatever you’re comfortable with.
- Depth is important. Although constant contact is important, make sure the conversations you do have are meaningful and have depth. In as much as asking what their last meal was is important,deeper conversations help you feel closer to each other.
- What is the end goal? Going into a long-distance relationship without having a general plan for when you can live near each other again is kind of like jumping into an ocean without knowing when if a lifesaver is going to save you. One of the rules of getting into it is knowing how long it’s going to be for. Have a game plan before making the leap.
Uncertainty is the highest killer of Long Distance Relationships. So before you delve/dive into it, make sure you have cleared all the doubts in your mind.
Peace, Love and Light.
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