Reterdeen Staff
Once upon a time, people frowned upon seeing a pregnant unmarried woman or child born out of wedlock. But in this present-day, what was seen as a shame is now pathway fame. The reason for this is not something hidden. The baby-mama trend has now become an acceptable norm among Nigerians because it assures many the opportunity of escaping marital commitments while giving them a chance to parenthood. Also, in a situation where the babby-daddy is living in the easy street, it is more comfortable and fast means that baby-mamas use in getting rich by payment of child support. In order words, becoming a baby-mama is a way of escaping poverty from many single women involved in the trend.
Why the sudden boom?
While some baby-mama is opportune to get pregnant for men that are financially buoyant to carter for the child and them as well, some have little luck to have a man that cares only for the child. Many baby-mama are however are unlucky as they end up with broke babby-daddies. Change they say it is constant, and honestly the way people view things are changing. Until now, a baby-mama was not a thing to boast about to parents or family members. Reason being that, society believed that people who bear a child out of wedlock are irresponsible and immature. A child produced from such romance is a bastard because he/she is not taken into a matrimonial home. The then society cringes at this idea, and when a woman gets pregnant out of wedlock, she becomes a laughingstock.
What Really is the root cause?
It is important to note that, divorcees. Widows or women that get pregnant through rape are exempted from this trend. Many firmly believe that this trend was copied from the western world and its decays the moral of society. The high rate of this syndrome can be traced to the increase in unprotected sex among unmarried youths which ultimately leads to pregnancy. As I earlier stated, being a baby-mama permits the man and woman a chance to parenthood. However, good parenting which is also known as co-parenting is done by both a mother and father. But in the case of baby-mama and baby-daddy, the popular parenting style is single parenting. Many believe single-parenting has some adverse effect on the child. Parenting is not just sending money weekly or monthly for upkeep.
Are There Any Consequences?
Although the child needs are met, he/she suffers a lack of emotional, psychological and moral support. The baby-mama, on the other hand, gets her aim by financially gaining from the situation. Also, a different side of the story is Delay. Delay in getting married, just like every other delay in life can be a very depressing and heart-ripping phase of life, especially here in Nigeria. In our present society, a single girl who lives with her parents and still unmarried at the age of 25 faces pressure from every angle to get married. The girls who are so desperate to erase the shame do all sort of thing just to get married, some in the hope of “trapping” their boyfriend to quickly propose to them get pregnant and if the guy who is not prepared for it in most cases abandon the woman and the unborn child, thus making her a baby-mama.
As I rest my fingers, it is crucial for our society to start encouraging the present youth to accept marital commitments rather than running away from it. It is also necessary for our community to begin to frown at the rate of unprotected sex and the idea of bearing children out of wedlock. Entertainers/ Celebrities have a vital role to play because they influence the youths that see them as role models. Our governmental bodies, parents and religious houses need to hold firmly to the upcoming generation and enlighten them on the right path to take.
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