Everyone is afraid of something and it can range from cockroach to heights. Some are stronger than others and it’s okay as long as it does not start interfering with our well-being and having a negative effect on those who are around us.
Here are six of the most common signs that will tell you that you’re afraid of being or falling in love and being in a relationship with someone other than yourself, Let’s begin.
- You haven’t made peace with your past: One very basic reason why people are scared to be in a relationship is that they’re still troubled by certain experiences from their past and the slightest or tiniest trigger can tick them off and bring back that state of fear and depression.
- The fear of your social life changing, forever: A large number of people are scared of being in a relationship because they think it will change the way they interact with people, change their social lives and so on. A relationship that makes you give your social life up isn’t a relationship in the first place, your partner will never make you spend less time with your friends if they truly love you.
- You’re afraid of sharing your time with someone: Most people run away from relationships because they think they are too time-consuming. Relationships are about two people sharing a life together, the time spent together becomes time shared and it enhances it in every way.
- You don’t think you can trust again: They say trust is the hardest thing to make and the easiest thing to break, they’re right. It could take years to build the perfect trust between two people and it can take mere seconds to break that trust into a million pieces. The fear here is to get your trust broken again after working on it for so long.
- You think you’ll be trapped: Another common fear is when people think they’ll be trapped the second they commit to someone. This fear can be developed because of past experience or the experiences of others. It can scare you off from committing yourself to someone who truly deserves to be with you.
- You’re scared of breaking up: A lot of people don’t get into relationships because they’ve seen too many people breaking up and get hurt bad. People break up when they don’t want to work on each other anymore because real relationships require constant work and effort which is something people don’t realize from the start.
So do you find yourself in any of the Numbers? If you did, I have a fix for you in the next post.