Love in recent times has been overlooked in marriages, but how important is it still? And how does it affect the children?
This has a huge impact in some of our communities and particularly our homes. Arguable there is nothing to be achieved without love in the air.
Marital conflict is a common scene in most marriages, but it may have some major underlying implications most couples pay less attention to.
Did you know that your babies learn from a very early age? As early as 2 months?
Yes, babies start listening to your words right from the fetal stage when in your womb, but try to make meaning of it when born through observation.
You will not hear what they are saying or feeling but they would be observing all the situations and tend to act on it when they are grown up. It stick with them and would always reflect on their personalty in their homes too as they grow up. They can’t understand all the scenes but they would tend to grab one or two from it which you will not probably know of.
Your baby can’t fully understand the words you say but makes meaning of it by observing emotions such as anger, pain, sadness, depression, anxiety, love etc.
As they grow babies begin to make sense of their world and what is love, who loves them, speech, daddy, and mummy etc.
So you may think the little fights and quarrels don’t have any damaging impact, except on grown children but this notion is incorrect.
Recent research has shown that exposure to stress at a tender developmental stage can have an impact on the way in which the brain functions in later years.
When parents are fighting or quarreling, it is physiologically traumatic for all kids. Their blood pressure increases almost every time (even in very young babies). If you try to play a tape of two adults fighting who are not their parents for a child, even that has a very negative effect. All parents fighting really results in them having huge anxiety. Countless People we have seen have memories of parents fighting. It really is a very early trauma which in turn affect the child. Love must be built in all homes to curb this
Kids have this magical way which let them think where they take responsibility for some things. It is very crazy, but if both parents are fighting, they think it is really their fault.
The researchers discovered that listening to arguments between parents even during sleep for a baby can affect how they process emotional tones of voice which makes them stressed and in later life can cause anxiety and emotional instability. A simply internet search would reveal some of the researches, so that you could see how love could impact or destruct a relationship in our homes.
This is why as couples we need to increase the degree of love and peace in our homes and reduce the misunderstandings and fights. Thanks for reading.
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