Hello everyone, how are you doing? Today I am going to ask you all a question. Do you think you are as mature as you should be? If you do not know for sure you will know by the end of this post so keep reading, it is only a 5 minutes read.
We are usually made to believe that with age comes maturity which is a big lie. Maturity is something that develops after experiences resurface in life. You don’t just magically become mature on your 21st or 25h birthday. You can mature at a very young age, or maybe you will never ever get mature. To find out, we will be taking an exciting journey and explore four signs of someone who is not yet matured no matter how old he or she may be.
1. You are reactive
Throughout your life, there is going to be plenty of times when you have to deal with a problematic or unfortunate situation. Yelling and reacting with anger right away is not an ideal way to handle upsetting scenario and its a clear sign that you need to grow up. Also, reactive people are often affected by there physical environment. If the weather is good, they feel good if the weather is terrible they feel bad and allow it to change their attitude and performance.
Mature people are somewhat responsive. They think first before they respond so whether it rains or the sun is smiling brightly makes no difference to them. You naturally cannot influence weather so if you accept what you can’t change and make a choice to move on you will be less upset and come across as more mature. Remember you are what you are today because of the decisions you made yesterday.
2. You are obsessed with your looks
Do your mood depends on how you look? Do your self-confidence depends on how you look? If your answers are yes, then you are not yet matured. More than ever, fashion has become a prominent part in everyone’s life so investing time and money on good clothes as in when you need them is reasonable to an extent but being excessively obsessed with your look is a crystal clear sign that you are not yet matured.
It is a simple fact that most people are not going to be as good looking as Alex Ekubo or Mercy Johnson so why spend so much time and money and still be anxious about your appearance? Immature people tend to wear provocative clothing and are always engrossed in monitoring how others are looking at them rather than concentrating on other aspects of their life. Mature people realize external appearance will undoubtedly fade away in a few years and they only give it as much attention as it needs. Let me tell you the truth there is only one beautiful and handsome child in the world and every mother has it.
3. You are defensive
Once upon a time, I used to be a very defensive lady in every conversation, but I never realized that. I would get defensive if someone said something funny about me. I would always defend and explain rather than laugh over it, Even when my friends told me I was defensive, I was like “hell no.” After I realized, I have made considerable improvement in my defense mechanism, and my life has been exponentially better. I am not suggesting you should start taking the blame for everything on you but sometimes even if it is your fault you just have to let it go and take responsibility for your role in what happened.
4. You like to play the victim
Immature people always love to play the victim of circumstances. They always talk about their sad stories from a wicked boss to horrible parents, backstabbing friends, meager salary, nagging wife and sometimes all of the above. They have this “oh! Poor me” attitude to get people’s sympathy and want everyone to keep telling them eyah! Or doh!
This people all they care about is their life and their problems, and they are not looking for solutions they just want to be in their problem zone so they can manipulate others. Strong and mature people, on the other hand, tackle their problems and acknowledge the problems of others and help resolve them. Playing the victim may help you get sympathy for a short time, but on the long run, it’s going to make you appear immature, and people around you are going to dislike you.
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