There is something called the ‘commitment-phoebe radar’ and only a handful of people know about it or how it is used. Some Men and Women are unable to commit and the truth is that the signs are most times usually there right from the beginning.
We are just lost in all the roses, butterflies and the relationship appearing like magic that we sometimes miss these 8 signs that your radar should instantly pick up on.
Has a long list of exes
If he/she has got a long list of former partners, then the problem can definitely not be the long list of exes. Do you really think all those people were the problem? Let me paint a picture of what this relationship will look like if you two date. Over time your good and bad aspects come to light (as it should in any normal relationship), they strive for perfection and are thus endlessly finding faults with you, and eventually call it quits. Once again, they are on the lookout for the next person to fulfil those criteria.
Still half in love with the one that got away
Several people subconsciously or consciously build up the image of the one ex that got away and every partner that comes after is compared to that one ex. You need to steer clear of these people whether it was a recent break-up or one long-ago, they can never be in a healthy relationship until they move on from their previous one.
Hardly ever gets back to you
Picture this, the relationship starts out as wonderfully romantic, but gradually may begin to fizzle out, and then they may do the vanishing act where they don’t call you for five days straight. Truth is this strategic retreat has less to do with you, and more to do with their own issues and anyone who makes a habit of not calling you back or responding to your messages evidently does not have you on their mind.
Doesn’t initiate plans to meet
Are you the one who is usually proposing you two go out someplace or spend time together? And each time you confront them about your feelings, they come up with a story that will make Nollywood proud. You may even believe them the first few times, but don’t fool yourself. You are not a priority in their lives, because if you were, then they would be making more of an effort to keep you in their lives.
Does not introduce you to friends or family
I know Yoruba Demons have this on lockdown and it should not be on the list but they will not dictate what is right for us. So with the exemption of Yoruba Demons, when it has been a while to your relationship, it is only natural to expect to be introduced to your partner’s family or friends but when despite enough time, you are at the receiving end of a collection of excuses, know that you probably are dating a Gamophobia.
Unwilling to discuss the future
His or her reluctance to discuss our prospects is due to the fact that he or she never considered it a part of their own future. If your partner refuses to discuss the future of your relationship, then there is a high likelihood that there isn’t one. He/she does not believe you a part of their equation.
They don’t tell you they love you
Most individuals who are unwilling to commit to relationships have a hard time expressing their feelings. Often times, people just aren’t sure of their feelings for the other person and need more time to be certain and this is normal. But when they refuse to return the feeling, ever, then know that this runs much deeper than just vulnerability. Please save yourself and move on.
Says that he/she doesn’t want a relationship
So, your partner says conflicting things like “I like you. I’d like to continue seeing you. But I don’t want a relationship or I am not looking to get serious.” Anyone who tells you that they are not looking for anything substantial, and still want your continued efforts are what I call bad market. Please flee.
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