If you keep find yourself in situations where you come up with excuses as to why things aren’t rosy anymore and you are constantly trying to make yourself believe that this is the best it can be even when it is obvious that you aren’t that happy with him or her anymore.
When you have to convince yourself that you’re happy, that is a very clear sign that your relationship isn’t fulfilling anymore.
Here are 5 things people only say when they’re no longer happy with their partners but are trying to convince themselves otherwise.
- Faded Excitement.
It is impossible to have those first-date jitters and butterflies forever. The butterfly stage is usually at the beginning of the relationship while you’re still falling for each other.
This does not then mean you should stop being excited about seeing your partner. Your partner is someone who should make you feel warm and happy not someone whose presence annoys you and makes you go uninterested. That is a sign of a big problem.
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- “Work is just stressing us out, that’s all.’’
It is quite true that you will go through challenges in life and things will not always come easy. You both are not always going to be happy in a happy bubble as all relationships go through their ups and downs, but the important thing is that you both want to work on it. But you cannot keep blaming outside influences or forces for your unhappiness. You cannot always find an excuse for why you and your partner have disconnected—like work, family and other stuff. Try to find out what the real issue here, and stop blaming your unhappiness with each other on things that have nothing to do with it.
- “I don’t want to bother him or her with my issues; it’s not important.’’
Your partner is supposed to be your sanctuary. The person who is supposed to be there for you and be your helping hand through life’s storms. If you find yourself not wanting to open up to him or her but instead, talk to your friends and family, you’re probably no longer feeling connected to and need to discuss what the issue might be.
- “We’ll deal with it eventually.’’
There is no we will deal with it later in a relationship. It is a bad idea to let problems accumulate without addressing them. If you have problems in your relationship, you need to deal with them immediately. Putting things off and not dealing with them while the feelings are still fresh is going to put a damper on your relationship. Talk about your issues and work on your relationship.
- “It just makes sense to stay together, for practical reasons.’’
If you’re only staying with your partner for things that have nothing to do with love and respect, let me put it to you that you’re in it for all the wrong reasons. Don’t stay in a loveless relationship just because it’s more convenient to. You deserve to be with someone out of love and not out of practicality.
No relationship is perfect but if it is not working, the best thing is to end it instead of hurting yourself.
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