Conversations can be a pain in the ass, especially for introverts or shy people. This is because they tend to be in their head and are more picky about what they say. However, conversations are not just about what you say but are more about the way you connect with others.
These points below will show you how you can be better at conversations and build stronger relationships
As the saying goes “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” Just by listening to someone you are talking with, you convey the message that you are actually interested in what they are saying. Moreover, when you listen, you are able to focus on what the other person is saying and find cues on how to respond.
Mirroring is a form of sub-communication that takes place in everyday interaction but is so subtle that it often gets noticed. It involves a person imitating the body language of another during a conversation. Psychologists recommend the mirroring technique because it has been found to spur a sense of closeness during conversations. This means that when you consciously mirror a person’s mannerisms, you communicate to them that they are similar to you and this, in turn, forms the basis for a stronger relationship.
Learn To Laugh At Yourself
You will not always appear charismatic in every situation you find yourself in and it is important that you don’t take such moments too seriously. When you learn to laugh at yourself in embarrassing situations, it portrays you as confident and a person who sees his/her imperfections as quirks.
Ask Open-Ended Questions
This is a full-proof way of avoiding awkward silences. The trick here is to avoid asking questions that require a short or single-word response and instead ask questions that will get the other person talking more about the subject of discussion. For instance, instead of saying, “How was work today?”, you can say, “What did you do at work today?”. The former would only prompt a short answer while the latter would get the person explaining in more detail.